AUGUST: INTENTIONALITY
VALUES
INTRODUCTION QUESTION
Last month we talked about identity. When you think about how you define yourself, what’s one area you’d like to change or improve?
QUESTIONS
Why do you think you’ve struggled to improve in these areas?
How much comfort do you take in the “non-improved” version of yourself that exists today? Does this comfort make it difficult to want to actually improve?
What lies do you believe about yourself that make improvements in this area hard for you?
How does hearing about the lies others believe about themselves make you feel?
Do you believe you deserve the improved version of this situation for yourself?
What would you have to believe to allow yourself to improve in this area?
TAKE ACTION MOMENT
While we are likely to always to have things we want to work on within ourselves, accepting ourselves for who we are now allows us to pursue new opportunities with intention and purpose
Put together your “at peace bucket list”
What are 3+ things you strive to be at peace with in your life?
EXAMPLE QUESTION WALK-THROUGH
Last month we talked about identity. When you think about how you define yourself, what’s one area you’d like to change or improve?
I think of myself as a type A person, being type A I stress about preparing for every situation. I wish I wasn’t so caught up in planning the next and could focus on the now.
Why do you think you’ve struggled to improve in these areas?
I take comfort in being the well-planned friend. I feel put together when I’m the one that remembers to make the reservation and coordinate the plans. I like being thanked for being so on top of things.
How much comfort do you take in the “non-improved” version of yourself that exists today? Does this comfort make it difficult to want to actually improve?
I live in this in between space between wanting to live more in the moment and go with the flow and the peace of mind and gratitude I get from others when I’m the prepared friend. While I want to live more in the moment and go with the flow, I also don’t really want to let go of this.
What lies do you believe about yourself that make improving in this area hard for you?
If I don’t make the plans, they will never get made
People will like me less if I suddenly become someone who doesn’t keep everyone else organized
I will lose a part of me if I’m not the one stressed about keeping the trains running
How does hearing about the lies others believe about themselves make you feel?
Sad! We all expect things from others but we should be focused on our own wellbeing
Do you believe you deserve the improved version of this situation for yourself?
I believe I deserve a break sometimes
I believe if I let the ball drop then I won’t have as good of a time
What would you have to believe to allow yourself to improve in this area?
I’d have to believe that going with the flow, things will work out the way they are supposed to.
I’d have to believe that having a less tight hold on my every moment won’t result in my unhappiness and the disappointment of others in me